Q: Is your name Stephen Ira Beatty or just Stephen Ira?
A: Just Stephen Ira.
Q: What does “cisgender” mean?
A: Here, let me google that for you. A cisgender person is someone who identifies with the gender they were assigned at birth.
Q: Can I contact you about an interview or other opportunity to appear in the mainstream media?
A: Not right now, sorry! I’m just not at a place in my life where I want more mainstream exposure.
Q: I’m not a member of the mainstream media per se–do you think I could interview you or feature you in some way?
A: Maybe! Depends on what your publication or other forum is and what you want me to talk about in said forum. If I am likely to have heard of your publication outside of the queer blog/indie publishing universe, the answer is probably no. Contact me with information and I’ll let you know. But I don’t want to waste your time, so you may as well know: If you want to talk about anything to do with Hollywood, my personal life, celebrity culture, etc., I’m going to say no.
Q: A loved one of mine just came out as queer and I want to know how to help/I’m queer and having a hard time and I need someone to talk to. Can I email you?
A: You are absolutely welcome to and I will help however I can.
Q: Why didn’t you post my comment?
A: I have a policy against oppressive language in comments, so that’s probably why yours isn’t there. Look it over again and try to examine whether you’ve used any sexist, racist, cissexist, heterosexist, homophobic, transphobic, or ableist language, plus whether or not you checked your privilege before making that comment. I don’t ban people unless they’re absolutely egregious, so feel free to try again, unless I explicitly ask you not to.
Q: God, you’re only twenty. Will you please put down the gender studies books and go out into the real world?
A: You are making an awful lot of assumptions about what those twenty years have been like for me! Also, I don’t accept the premise that gender studies and the real world are mutually exclusive categories!
Q: When did you come out as male?
A: I was fourteen.
Q: When did you come out as gay?
A: I was seventeen.
Q: Are you on hormones? What dose? Have you had surgery? What kind? Are you done with your medical transition? What else do you have planned?
A: Why do you think you have the right to this information about my body?