Email: patchworknureyev@gmail.com
Trans Action Email (the organization I co-chair): transaction@gm.slc.edu
If you’re trying to get into contact to ask about a media appearance, please read my FAQ first.
If you’re trying to get into contact just to talk, or to say you like the blog, or whatever, seriously feel free; I am not a celebrity. Especially if you’re a queer in a bad place and you need someone to talk to. Know that right now I’m able to answer all emails, and emails asking for help staying alive in a world that wants us to think we’re not people will always be my priority.
Hi Stephen,
I wrote you a comment in the About section some days ago asking for a possible interview for the blog ambienteg.com
Whatever you decide about it, will be OK, seriously. But just in case, and after reading your FAQ section, I want to clarify that I’m not interested at all in any aspect of your family and I don’t pretend to make any reference or ask you anything about it. I must confess that such thing led me to your blog but the reason because I asked you for an interview is because I couldn’t read anything before so clearly and well written about the transgender complex identity and how unknown it is even from the point of view of so many LGBTQ Community members.
If you are finally OK with the interview, I’m open to mention or not your name in the interview or including or not a photo of you is up to you. I’m just interested in your ‘light’ about this subject.
Again, if you are not interested, I understand completely and I thank you, anyway, for your time.
Thanks a lot!
Miguel
Hi Stephen,
I’m actually not sure if I am writing to the correct place but…
I would just like to know how you handled telling your parents and siblings. At what age you decided to tell them. How did they all deal with it?
I have no problem with gay, trans, lesbian or whatever anyone feels the need to be. You are who you are. The problem is my husband who is against anything he doesn’t understand. I will love my children no matter what but I am afraid he will disown them should 1 or more come out as something other than what he expects. I have tried explaining it to him by saying it would be like him being him on the inside but in a womans body.
Sorry for the personal nature of the questions. I saw an article and followed the link …so here I am lol we live in a very small town so there really isn’t anyone to go to here.
It’s ok! I understand needing resources, especially if you’re in a rural place. There’s a real lack of places to go.
I’m sorry you’re having those difficulties with your husband, but it sounds like you’re dealing with it well–trying to educate him and remaining strong in your belief that everyone’s humanity is equal. If any of your kids end up queer in some way, I believe you’ll be able to give them the love they need, even if their dad is hateful towards them. God, isn’t it awful when someone you love is intolerant? It’s even worse, because you can’t just get mad at them, you have to deal with the fact that you still care for them deeply.
I’d rather not talk about how my coming out went, because people are so interested in my famous family, and I want to keep things private.
Stephen, i think what youre doing is wonderful. I also think youre incredibly hot and intelligent. Thank you for being you. Esther
Moderator Note: While this comment isn’t explicitly queer-hating, the website he links to, Save California, is, and may be triggering. Please be aware of this if you click.
I think you are an incredible fuck up and these are the CONSEQUENCES of Liberals controlling USA. Bill Clinton began the demise. Bill is a worthless POS. He had no skills. He tries to get all the credit from the technology boom of the 1990s. Clinton did NOT do a damn thing to improve the economy. Clinton just happened to be at the right place at the right time. George Bush Sr would have been a great POTUS, if he had been lucky enough to have been POTUS during the infancy of the web, when everything tech was hot. Anyway… hopefully ONE BIG ASS MISTAKE AMERICA will lose in 2012!!! I really love Rick Perry, Michell Bachman, Sarah Palin or even Rick Santorem. But I will vote for Romney just to keep OBAMA from winning. z
Hi Stephen,
I think you’re really cool.
By the way, I just realized that my first name is so distinctive, it might not provide the privacy I momentarily forgot was not a normal part of Internet communications. It wouldn’t upset me if you made my comment on a possible speaking event with Ms. magazine come from “Jane” instead of the less common “Chita,” if you wouldn’t mind.
more logo art. maybe you’ll like these: could also do just the ‘m’ or just the ‘s.’ plus can give you higher res for t-shirts, etc. if wanted.
proud to have made the current art on your site. best wishes.
http://desertventures.com/supermattachine.jpg
http://desertventures.com/supermattachine.logoonly.jpg
Ahh! This is so awesome of you to just spontaneously offer, as it was before–my blog looks way better because of you. I’ll probably cycle through using these different images too. Thank you!
Stephen, I just stumbled upon your blog by accident when reading up on actors and history. Amazing how one can surf the internet and go from one subject to a totally other one.
If I understand correctly you are a gay man, transitioning from a female body to male body. This strikes me as unusual in the most of the transgender people I have read about wished to become the opposite sex in which they were born, and were most always attracted to the same sex as they were originally born. Is your situation somewhat rare as I think it might be?
Anyway, as good as your writing is, the video is even much more compelling and fun to watch. The speed at which you talk is just fine and so much better than others’ I’ve seen who take so long to get to the point(s) being or attempting to be made. I hope you make some more of them soon now that this one came off so well. I also speak fast, think fast, and like to not waste too much time being indirect.
As a gay man myself, and knowing how it can be difficult to “come out” to everyone, I would have thought that being from very famous parents it would have been even more difficult and/or frightening. But it looks like you just decided one day that that was it. You are brave. I’m still not out to some of my relatives even if they likely know already. I guess you being a part of the generation of connected-ness has been part of what has made you move more freely and swifter than some of us
I think my main question is why there is the need to transition to a male body? I am not passing judgment on that desire, I just wanted to understand this better. Because if you are attracted to men, I would expect it would simply be opening up the possibilities to more choices, more options if having a female body. I’ve met enough gay women who live practically as men, that the role models of the sexes are pretty much blurred beyond recognition at this late point, at least in the larger and more progressive cities, and likely beyond. I know you are not a gay women, so there is a difference. But I know gay men that do simply feel like “girls” and that is that. Most of them don’t, as far as I know wish to get a sex change, they just love having sex with another man, and they happen to be men.
And someone with your intellect, and energy, and creativity is going need someone rare and special, and equally bright enough to keep up. If I were in your position, I would want all my options open, and to keep the chance finding Mr. right with the best odds.
I see that you are just barely a couple of years into blogging about this subject. And you may even have thought about these things, or written about them and I failed to read it thus far. But as much as the politics of this subject is interesting, I’m interested in hearing how you feel personally about sexuality in general. That sounded funny, “personally & generally” it sounds like a contradiction. But I think you can come up with a way to write about it without handing out more than needs to be said. And there is still time too. No hurry right. It is a very personal subject when you consider it. But then your blog subject is not exactly about coin or stamp collecting is it.
Anyway, the video is great, and your editing is fine. You are refreshingly bright.
Thanks,
Jeff
Thank you for your compliments, but please do not ask me questions like these. If you googled it at all, you would find that gender identity and sexual orientation are two different things. Also, my body is not female, and I have had no difficulty at all finding other queer men who want to date and fuck me. I am very public about the fact that I came out as trans at 14 and gay at 17–I have had a lot of time to think about my identity, and every single thing you have said here I have heard before. Please use google for your education and not me.